Do they look different? Did you notice the different look of the hair product, prior to my cutting the ends off? Not only did I make my first attempt at putting extension braids in the girls hair, but I used a completely different product than they had used before. During an evening of blog hopping and the subsequent internet research of braiding techniques, tips, and tricks, I discovered a very inexpensive (and quite unique) alternative to the typical synthetic hair that is used for extensions.
Here is the traditional product used for extension braids:

Here are the two products that I used:
Rachel's "hair" is ...
Sarah's "hair" is ...
Yes ... seriously ... I used inexpensive yarn, purchased at Wal-Mart (as recommended on several instruction videos that I watched). The crazy thing is, the yarn is actually much more similar to the girls' natural hair than the "fake hair" that is typically used. Not only are the texture and color incredibly natural looking, but the yarn is much easier to work with, and the braids turn out much more uniform in size. With the synthetic hair, you have to guesstimate how many little strands to use in each braid. (Especially when you are tired after braiding for many hours, the braids can turn out thicker, in an effort to "just be done".) Whereas, with yarn braids, you always have the same amount of strands in each braid.
While one YouTube video I watched said that the young lady had used 3 skeins of yarn, she must have ended up with very long braids. I used less than 1 skein for each girl. So, the total cost of doing each girls hair ... less than $4 including the yarn and rubber bands.
Here is a link to the blog where I initially discovered Yarn Braids. Woohoo! Thanks Pam!
http://pramom26.blogspot.com/2008/08/hairku-friday-6-yarn-braids.html
(sorry ... my link button isn't working ... you'll have to cut and paste the above web address into your address bar)
Pam includes lots of links ...
... for other posts with great pics of the finished braids.
... for a great video on "How to do Yarn Braid Extensions".
... for a yahoo group all about black hair care.
(I would have included the links, if my link button would work. Sorry.)
After watching the training video, I Googled "Yarn Braids" and began exploring a variety of YouTube videos. After 6 months of learning about how to care for ethnic hair, and with my recent information about Yarn Braids, I found that I was now confident enough to step out and "do their hair". Yea!
So, here are some of the things that I have learned, and why we do things the way we do.
Why have we chosen extension braids for our girls?
#1 We think they are adorable. I've always loved lots of braids. The girls LOVE them!
#2 A Ghanaian woman told us that because our girls have "hard hair" they will always need to keep their hair in braids ... either natural braids or extensions.
#3 Natural braid hairstyles take several hours to do (for EACH girl), and last about a week. Whereas, extension braids can take 8-10 hours per girl, but can last 6-8 weeks.
#4 With 9 children still living at home, I am unable to set aside 5-6 hours (for both girls) every weekend to do hair. For our family, the longer lasting extensions work much better.
#5 Living in a predominately white community (filled with little girls with long blonde hair), we felt that the "long hair" extensions would help our girls to feel that they fit in better. We had extensions put into their hair while still in Ghana, so everyone at home only knows them with braids. (Upon arriving home, they met a young girl that lives nearby. Kiana was adopted from Haiti, and she regularly wears long extensions. So, our girls immediately saw that this was a common hairstyle for the black children in town.)
We are surprised how many people comment on their beautiful braids, and how many of those people have no idea that the braids are not their natural hair. While our children are very aware that their skin color is not the same as the majority of our community, I believe it has been a true blessing to have a physical trait that gets such positive reinforcement. Our girls ARE beautiful. And, if extension braids help them to feel that way ... all the better.
Why do I use Yarn Braids rather than synthetic hair.
#1 Much less expensive.
#2 Easier to braid.
#3 More uniform braids.
#4 More natural looking and feeling than synthetic.
#5 Less pull on the natural hair. Synthetic hair (if not high quality) can actually cut the natural hair where it is wrapped tightly at the scalp.
#6 (added to original post) Pam made some good comments on this post. One of them led me to realize that the Yarn Braids let the hair "breathe" better than synthetic hair; and, therefore, the natural hair stays healthier, grows better, and has less breakage when the braids are removed. Thanks Pam!
How do I "start" the yarn braids? How do I attach the yarn to the natural hair?
Please see the above link, and follow the link to the training video.
What other hair care tips have I learned?
#1 While some sites I visited recommended a wide variety of hair gels and sprays, to be used on each section of hair before braiding, I was excited to see several sites recommend a very natural and inexpensive product (which we already had in our bathroom cupboards). Before adding the Yarn Braids, I coated each section of hair with "100% Aloe". Yes, this is the same stuff you may have in your cupboards for the healing of sunburns. Just make sure you are using the 100% Aloe, not the products with added ingredients.
#2 Another very important tip we learned from the woman in Ghana was to NOT get the girls' hair wet while it is in braids (either natural braids or extensions). She explained that when their braids get wet, the natural hair is unable to dry properly. Then, when the braids are removed later (1 week for natural hair or 6 weeks for extensions) the natural hair tends to be unhealthy and prone to damage and breakage. We use swim caps (purchased at Big 5 Sporting Goods) for showers, swimming, and backyard sprinkler fun. We were very excited that when we removed the last set of braids, the girls hair had grown significantly, was very healthy, and had no breakage issues.
#3 Always wanting to learn more about African hair care, I wasn't afraid to ask an African American woman on our Bahamas cruise what she felt were her very best tips for hair care. She was glad I asked, and encourage me to use oil on their hair DAILY, even when they have their extensions in. This woman shared that she and her friends refer to their hair oil as their "fertilizer", because it makes their hair grow better. I had already purchased a spray bottle of Tea Tree Oil for their hair, and she said that was a great choice. I have also read that you can fill a spray bottle with a mixture of light olive oil (from the grocery store) and water ... and spritz that on daily. Or, you can use a hair "grease" and run that on the scalp daily. Since I don't know how the yarn will do with a daily oil spray, I think I will try the scalp grease this time around. (One tip I just learned today was to use a small toothbrush to apply the grease (or cream) to the scalp and then use it to smooth any frizzies back up onto the braids.) another additional thought ... Pam says that the olive oil spray made her daughters yarn braids stink ... so I will definitely stick with the scalp cream.
#4 The African culture takes great pride in keeping their hair done up right. So, it is very important for us Obrunis (white people ... in Ghana) to learn how to take care of our African children's hair. I have read in multiple places that it is very upsetting to American black women to see unkempt black children in the care of white mothers. They feel that we are letting down our children, in a very important cultural matter. I, for one, have always felt it was important to keep my girls hair looking good ... so I understand the concerns. (My boys, however, may get a bit scraggly sometimes as they are awaiting their turn for a haircut. With 7 boys at home right now, it takes a while to make their appointments with mom.)
Well ... I hope this has been helpful. In addition to all of the comments I got on my hair posts from other adoptive moms, I also received several personal emails saying, "Tell us how ..."
Let me know if you give the Yarn Braids a try. I'd love to see your pics.