One of the recent things that I was accused of being was a "Drama Queen". This kind of shook me up, because that is certainly NOT how I have seen myself. I don't believe that I seek Drama, nor that I even like living in the midst of Drama.
However, as I said in my post last week about, "Who Am I?" ... I take any and all concerns seriously, and sought to determine whether or not this was a valid accusation.
My conclusion:
Papa is the King of Drama
Mama is the Queen of Drama
because ...
Any Family with 17 people in it
(including new-daughter-in-love
and almost-daughter-in-love
and almost-son-in-love)
is bound to have a bit of drama.
Period.
No way around it.
We do NOT live a boring life.
We are PASSIONATE people.
We are RELATIONAL people.
therefore ...
I admit it.
The Big D. Family
is sometimes known to have
DRAMA.
What do you get if you put 17 preschoolers
together for more than an hour or so?
Drama.
What do you get if you have 17 "tweens"
that spend a week at summer camp together?
Drama.
What do you get if you put 17 teenagers together
for a week-long mission trip?
Drama.
What do you get if you have 17 adults working
closely on a church or work project together?
Drama.
Why would you expect a family
with 17 people to be any different?
I did some calculating ...
If you have 4 people in your family, than you have 12 individual relationships, with each family member relating individually to the other 3 family members.
Right?
4 people x 3 relationships = 12 relationships
Some people would think that a family of 8 would have twice as many relationships as a family of 4 (resulting in 24 relationships), and a family of 16 would have twice as many relationships as a family of 8 (resulting in 48 relationships).
Now ... 48 relationships is a LOT of relationships ... which can result in a LOT of drama.
But ...
No.
When calculating relationships (and therefore drama possibilities) you can't use simple addition.
No.
Calculating the number of relationships in a family takes multiplication. (And, in an extra-large family, it would appear to be more like Compound Interest and/or Exponential Growth.)
We have 17 people in our family.
Each of those 17 people has an individual relationship with the other 16 people in the family (not to mention all of the "small group" relationships, like: Papa & Mama, Big Kids, Young Ones, Boys, Girls, Twins, Married Kids, etc...).
Right?
So ...
How many Relationship Factors does the
Queen of Drama
have to "deal with"
(ie: manage, officiate, referee, teach,
train, direct, preside over, supervise,
organize, harmonize, synchronize)
on a daily basis???
17 people x 16 relationships = 272
272 Primary Relationship
+ ??? Small Group Relationships
DRAMA
Yes.
Mama D.
is a
Drama Queen,
is a
Drama Queen,
and I wouldn't want it any other way.
I love you.
ReplyDeleteyou my dear deserve a medal...drama queen or amazing mama, either way you are my hero!
ReplyDeleteLove this :)
ReplyDeleteFrom one drama mama to another!
Because you share your experiences and because you are a great storyteller, you succeed in Magnifying the impact of the story. As opposed to me, being a bit reserved & shy, if I had the same experience and shared it, it wouldn't have the same effect on the reader or the listener.
ReplyDeleteI would most likely purposely tone it down, where You & your family "Live Out Loud" and your enthusiasm & passions definitely come thru!
WE ARE BLESSED because the Big D family is a part of our life, DRAMA and all.
As with every emotion and passion, people can take it too High or too Low at times, that's life, imperfections abound. Living under Grace & Love -- That's where we are, and I trust GOD to Guide your words and actions!
You guys are loved & you bless so many! If the criticism is constructive, take it with a grain of salt and take it to the Lord. If the criticism is destructive, take it with a grain of salt and Lift that person up to the Lord!
Thank you for sharing and allowing us to learn and grow, even if we don't fully understand. I've been able to pass your wisdom on to others when I saw some of the same struggles that I tended to judge as poor parenting.
God is Good!
Much Love, dear friends!!
This made me laugh :-)
ReplyDeleteHi Laurel- I lurk :-) and am praying for your family!
:)
ReplyDeleteHe he he he.....never thought of it that way. You make me giggle :)
ReplyDeletedoes that make me the prince of drama? just wondering. i love you mom. we all know the Big D Family is a lil on the crazy side, but i would not change it for the world. we are better for it.
ReplyDeleteLove it! And thanks for pointing out that in our family we have 42 relationships to deal with! Not sure how you do it with over 200, but thanks for encouraging me!
ReplyDeletebwahaha! I love this, so logical! I've always thought 12 was the "perfect" number of children to have....I guess I should keep this in mind. You rock.
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