Another "Unmentionable" Topic: Infidelity

On Tuesday . . .

I asked for prayer for some friends who are moving their son

to a Residential Treatment Center.

I talked about the "hush hush" nature . . . 

. . . of Adoption Disruption.

. . . of Mental Health Issues.

. . . of Residential Treatment Facilities.

Today . . .

I am asking for prayer for a friend who is also moving this week.

Why is she moving?

Because her husband's new girlfriend is moving into their home.

Seriously. Breaks. My. Heart.

What, exactly, is this "Unmentionable" Topic?

"Godly Christian Men choosing to have Affairs."

I am Just. So. Done.  . . .  with hearing of such things.

I am Just. So. Done.  . . .  with hearing the cries of my friends' broken hearts.

I am Just. So. Done.  . . .  with the lies, and excuses, and rationalizations.

And, if my heart is truly so BROKEN over this topic . . .

I can only imagine how the heart of Our Lord is broken, as well.

In the past 4 years . . .

I have known FIVE . . .

"Godly Christian Couples" 

who have been devastated by affairs.

These aren't just mere acquaintances.

No.  

They are friends.  

People we have known for many years.

People who LOVE GOD.

Men who No One Would Ever Imagine would fall into such sin.

In addition to these 5 couples . . .

 . . .  I have one friend who's husband turned to pornogr*phy.

. . .  I have one friend who's husband had an "internet relationship".

. . .  I have gotten private emails from multiple blog readers, 

who are walking this same journey,

who write to me to ask for prayer.

. . .  I have TWO dear friends who's parents 

have also walked this devastating journey,

in the past few years,

after 30+ years of marriage.

Every instance that I know of has been with the 

CHRISTIAN HUSBANDS in the family.

Yet . . . 

they were single Christian Women 

who were having the affairs

with these married Christian Men.

Some were marriages of 10+ years.

Some were marriages of 20+ years.

Some were marriages of 30+ years.

What is happening here?!?!

How has Satan gotten such an evil foothold into

Christian Men and Christian Marriages?!?!

What can we do?!?!

Two of the marriages ended in divorce.

The husbands were unwilling to go for counseling,

unwilling to even try to work things out,

unwilling to seek The Lord's Will for their marriages.

One of the marriages "worked things through",

and then the husband chose to Do It Again.

Seriously?!?!

The others have stayed married . . .

but some are not living "happily ever after".

They are living in "Survival Mode",

hoping and praying for better marriages "some day".

Some have given up hope for ever having a better marriage.

And . . .

. . .  these affairs don't just affect the husband and wife.

No.

My friend that is walking this most difficult journey this week

told me that her daughter's response was,

"How can I ever get married . . .  

How can I ever trust a man . . .  

. . .  if I cannot trust my own father."

If  FIVE of our FRIENDS . . .

have walked this walk in less than . . .

FIVE YEARS . . .

. . .  how many others are on the same path?

. . .  how many of my friends have walked this path, yet kept silent?

. . .  how many of your friends?

. . .  how many of my friends will discover in the years ahead

that their husbands have made the same choice?

. . .  how many of your friends?

. . .  how many acquaintances of ours are suffering silently,

because it is "just not something we talk about"?

. . .  how many of your acquaintances?

God desires So. Much. More. for our marriages.

God expects So. Much. More. from "Godly Men".

God commands So. Much. More. from each of us.

What are we to do?

What are our churches doing?

What are we doing?

We can't keep our blinders on.

This should not be an "Unmentionable Topic".

We must talk of it . . . 

in order to bring to light the work of the Enemy.


Men need to be talking to other Men about it . . .
sharing their struggles . . .
holding each other accountable.


Women need to be talking to other Women about it . . .
sharing their pain . . .
helping each other through . . .
encouraging each other to stay strong.


Couples need to be talking to other Couples about it . . .
sharing their struggles . . .
supporting each other when someone
chooses to sin in this area . . .
holding each other accountable.

We must learn to . . .

. . . give GRACE where needed.

. . .  give FORGIVENESS where needed.

. . .  PRAY for others as they face this devastating journey.

. . .  hold Godly Men ACCOUNTABLE for the choices they make.

Please pray for my sweet friend today . . . 

as she moves into her rented condo.


Please pray that her husband would see the error of his ways.

Please pray that the "girlfriend" 
would see the devastation she has brought.


Please pray that their pastor would step in and say, 

"STOP!  In the Name of Jesus . . . STOP Sinning!"


Please pray that WE (you and I) would know how to step in 
and bring God's LIGHT into this area of such great DARKNESS.