Welcome to Our Journey of Faith. My blog is a place where I share the joys and trials of living a faith-filled life as the mother of an extra large (12 children) homeschooling family, and my prayer is that it brings encouragement to others to live their lives as an adventure of faith, as well.
You see, losing Papillion was hush, hush. The 10 hospitals, multiple suicide attempts, all of the pain, and scares, and scars, all of the visits, and hopes up, and then dashed were weathered alone.
When she finally disappeared from our home and community, there were no questions asked, no prayers of support, no phone calls...she just materialized into thin air...because well, we just don't talk about mental illness now do we?
It was the loneliest thing I have ever been through, with very little validation out side of other trauma parents...I get the “People don't know what to say.”....but even if they just saying THAT...”Linds I am so sorry I don't know what to say" would have been something...instead of avoiding me in the hallways at church, or changing direction when come face to face with me in the grocery aisle. Or completely stop being my friend...
Mental health is so isolating, but it is time in 2012, for it not to be...really.
If my daughter had had Cancer, broken both legs, even terrible asthma, we could talk about it, and everyone would nod their heads sympathetically, ask questions, offer prayers, help, love...
But when it is a cancer literally eating away at someones soul, future,emotional health...when it is a broken brain, when your child can't take a full, deep breath because trauma has stolen it, well, that is something put in a corner, whisper and generally not ever bring it up.....and I.want.to.know.WHY?
We felt this isolation, avoidance, judgement, and condemnation when
we had to find a new home for Jacob in 2009.
(see: Adoption Disruption in the archives)
We felt this isolation, avoidance, judgement, and condemnation again
when we moved Little Miss to a Residential Care Facility last summer.
Oh how I am PRAYING that our friends don't face the same thing,
now that they, too, have had to make this most difficult parenting decision.
I am PRAYING that their close friends, extended family, and church family
will surround, support, pray for, and encourage them
as they try to find their "New Normal".
I am PRAYING for the siblings still at home,
that the Lord will give them peace and strength and encouragement,
and that their teen friends will come alongside with support, as well.